My Third Decade….Where Did it Go?

I can’t believe that the second decade of the 2000s is over. 2020 will also see the end of my third decade on this planet. A lot has happened over these past 10 years. Let’s see I have, in no particular order:

  • Bought a house
  • My child was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder
  • Celebrated a milestone wedding anniversary
  • Left a job I have had since college
  • I took a job working remotely and traveling to Austin Texas on a regular basis, where I learned so much about software engineering
  • I left that job worked for a great company where I did much of my professional growth and tried to institute change on a large scale
  • Took a new job, that I wasn’t looking for, but offered me interesting problems, great people, and the gift of time

I have made great friends. Some of whom have become family and others who have become trusted advisors.

My wife and I have overcome many challenges both individually and as a couple. Some of those have been health-related, others have been financial, and yet others have been about getting our child what he needed. But we tackled them together.

But I have also made mistakes. I have experienced failure. I am sure I have hurt those I care about. I have seen friends, colleagues, and family members die. Some of old-age, some of health issues, and some rather tragically.

This past decade has seen it’s fair share of both good and bad, but when I think back over the last 10 years, my mind tends to go to growth. This decade has seen both personal and professional growth for both my wife and I. I have tried written some technical talks. I tried my hand at management. I learned quite a bit about software development. I learned about raising a child with Autism.

I also let a chapter of my life close. I have been involved in EMS in some way, shape, or form since 1995. However, towards the end of this decade, I finally let my EMT expire. It wasn’t intentional, but none the less, I have let that chapter of my life go. But that has made time for other pursuits. But those skills don’t go away, and I found myself tapping into them towards the end of 2019 to take care of a friend, who found themselves injured and in need of assistance for most of the last three months of the year.

While this past decade has definitely had it’s ups and downs, I think on balance it was definitely a good decade. I am looking forward to what my fourth decade on this planet will present me. While I am hoping for a bit more stability, I am sure the universe will keep me on my toes!

I wish all of my friends and family an excellent decade ahead. I hope you all find growth, love, and happiness in this coming decade.

A Look Back at 2019

Well, here we are. We have watched the old year pass, and saw a new year ushered in. I won’t say that 2019 was a bad year. But it did offer me some tremendous challenges. I handled some of those challenges well. Others I failed miserably at.

2019 saw me end a failed attempt at a pivot to a management position. It saw me leave a job I loved with people loved and enjoyed working with. It saw me start a new job doing interesting work, solving interesting problems, being introduced to new, smart people. The job change also provided me with a precious commodity, time. As it turns out that time would come in handy.

2019 also saw the loss of a few more people, far too young. But it also found me forging and strengthening relationships with new friends and colleagues. The end of the year had me accessing and using skills I haven’t tapped since my EMS days.

I can’t say what the new year will bring. If I could I would be a very rich person. My goals for the new year including continuing my quest to be a bit healthier, getting back into my love of music, and taking more time to stop and “enjoy the view”.

When I think back to all of my professional accomplishments, personal successes, and failures this year, I am reminded of the chorus of a song called Orpheus. The lyrics are:

“Don’t stop trying to find me here amidst the chaos
Though I know it’s blinding there’s a way out
Say out loud, we will not give up on love now
No fear, don’t you turn like Orpheus, just stay here
Hold me in the dark and when the day appears
We’ll say we did not give up on love today”

When I think about whether 2019 was a success, I keeping coming back to this line from the second verse of the same song:

“But that’s enough, if the bottom drops out
I hope my love was someone else’s solid ground”

I think if my presence in someone else’s life provided them with the solid ground they needed to keep going, then I did my job this past year. History can decide how I score on that item, but I think overall I did a pretty good job.

Happy New Year to all my friends and family both far and near. I wish you joy, happiness, success, and love for 2020.